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Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Overcoming your fears - Trainer's perspective

I've been a personal trainer for over 13 years. In all of the years that I have been training, I've never come across a client that woke up one day, and decided that being overweight, unmotivated, and unhappy, was something they set out to achieve. It's never a goal that someone chooses willingly, deliberately, or consciously. In fact, it's usually the opposite of that.

Life happens. For most people, it's a slow progression over time. Perhaps it started in college, putting on the freshman fifteen. Then you entered the work force and didn't have the time or the energy to take care of yourself. You ate out, drank like a fish and worked your tail off. Then you got married, had children, and struggled to get off the last of the baby weight. You are now an overworked mother of seven, eating all the left over macaroni and cheese scraps from your little ones plates.

Perhaps the issue you have, is loving food too much. Or maybe you use food as an outlet to feel better when you get stressed out, or simple cope with life's ups and downs.

What if you HATE exercising? You've tried it, but really, it's just not for you. It's too hard to fit it into your busy lifestyle and you cannot stand sweating, or working hard. You already work hard, and adding physical activity just doesn't do it for you.

I've spoken to men and women who have shown interest in seeking help from a trainer, only to object to actually hiring one because they need to "run it by their spouse". I understand that some people want to talk about bigger purchases with their spouse, but come on people, really? Are you saying that if you went to your spouse and said "Hey honey, I am going to hire a personal trainer because I am going to lose 40 lbs, look fabulous and gain more self confidence!! Is that alright with you?", that they wouldn't be behind you 100%?

Fear is an overwhelming emotion. Fear can be masked in many forms. It can be masked in jealousy, anger, rage, sadness, and depression. You can turn fear inward or you can act out. Some people turn inward and punish themselves. Others, act out by taking it out on other people. Understanding this emotion will help you gain more perspective about why people choose not to take the steps necessary to live a healthier lifestyle.

We, as a society, can talk ourselves into, and out of anything we want to do. Deep down we are complacent with ourselves. We like the outter shell we created because it protects us from really being truthful with ourselves. We aren't consciously choosing to carry more weight, have medical issues down the road, and burden our joints with all the unnecessary baggage. But that is exactly what will happen.

Fear can control you. The fear of failure, fear of change, fear of the unknown. It can prevent you from doing what is truly important for your overall well being. Some people call it discipline. I call it overcoming your fear. When you face your fears, look that son of a bitch in the eye, and make the decision to not let it, or circumstances control you, then you have won. You will be able to overcome the challenges by understanding what is standing in your way.

You are the only thing standing in your way. Do you let that treat you just ate, or plan to eat later, stand in your way? No, you eat the treat. Do you let anyone else determine whether or not you should eat that treat? No, you eat it whether they allow you to or not. Stop sabotaging yourself and do better for yourself!! You absolutely deserve to have the best, be the best and treat yourself better than you ever have!

If this is reaching you today, then get up and do something, even if it's only for 10 minutes. Tomorrow, try another 10 minutes. Keep going until it becomes easier to do, then add on another 10 minutes. The point is to face your fears, and overcome them. Do something for yourself that matters, and believe me, this matters! Why wait for someone else to take care of you, when you can start taking better care of yourself.

I can go on and on. I'll stop here for today. If you'd like more information, please message me. If you want to continue to hear more on this subject, let me know.


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